Donna’s Three Most Recent “Wisps of Hope”
- There’s more than one way to solve a jigsaw puzzle … July 3, 2015
An Emma Story … One of my favorite memories of Emma is from when she was a little girl. She had gotten a puzzle – a child’s puzzle with 8-10 wooden pieces – it was a farm scene I think. She had all of the pieces, and the idea, of course, was to put it all back together. But Emma was really struggling with that part. So, what she ended up doing was … She was sitting on the kitchen floor. She took all the pots and pans out. She got all the dish towels out. And then she made a little family of these puzzle pieces. She had them hugging each other. They’d go to bed in a pot. She’d cover them up with dish towel and all of that. That’s probably the simplest story I can tell that is so typical of Emma.
This Emma Story is an excerpt from Donna’s recent interview on Vincent Edward’s radio webcast show, What Matters Most to You.
Listen to the entire interview – CLICK HERE.
- The Looming ‘Empty Nest’ – Someday They’ll Be Gone July 1, 2015
My oldest daughter, Sarah, is in Japan this summer embarking on an adventure with her boyfriend, which could become a forever thing. She moved back “home” when Emma died, slipping into the basement apartment just as my youngest son, Ben, was moving out to live with his then girlfriend, now wife, Alex. In a very real way, we have never been “empty-nesters” until now. Although this may be temporary, it has caused me to reflect on the differences between losing a child to death and losing a child to life.
I lost a part of Emma to death, but so too have I lost a piece of each of my children to life. It is the way of the world. It’s painful in some ways, but in most ways it’s as it should be, and that makes it right. I will never think that Emma’s death was good – my husband still firmly believes that God made a BIG mistake. No healthy, happy, vivacious 19-year-old simply dies in her sleep. But I’ve come to accept that it was the unique way she left the nest. I’ve come to believe she lives on, taking our teachings and guidance and making them her own, on her own. Continue reading →
- When You Lose a Loved One, Take a Cue From the Moon Jelly June 23, 2015
NPR had a spot recently – “Instead Of Replacing Missing Body Parts, Moon Jellies Recycle” – and I’m thinking there’s a lesson in the #MoonJelly. I often reflect on one of the early things my husband said after losing Emma. He likened it to a major amputation. You’ll always yearn for the part you’ve lost and you’ll always remember what life was like before you lost it. But you learn to do things that don’t require what’s missing. In a sense, you reshape what’s left around what’s gone. And one day, if you’re lucky and you work hard at it, you will be whole again. You won’t be the same, of course, and you may be diminished in many ways, but like the moon jelly, the essential parts of you will survive. Check out the NPR report here – and thanks, Meg Campbell, for sharing. Continue reading →
“Tomorrow Comes” Most Recent Reader Review
- Tomorrow Comes April 20, 2015
Laura – Family Valley Fun – My grandmother visits me as a cedar waxwing. Maybe it’s because she was a big bird lover and the cedar waxwing was always at her feeders. These birds are not that common around here, but every once in a while, one will stop by the holly bush at my front window. And, it seems to be when I need a reminder.
One day, I was frantically working, and was stressed about time, and deadlines. WHOOMP I heard a bird crash against my window. I looked up. It was a cedar waxwing. A reminder to slow down and take things easy.
A few days ago, I was in a rush driving somewhere. In the middle of the road in my neighbourhood was a flock of birds. They were splashing in a puddle, and weren’t making any signs to fly away as I came barrelling down the street. When I got closer, I realized it was a flock of cedar waxwings. Again, a reminder to slow down, take things easy – just when I needed it.
I call these encounters a message from my grandmother.
Probably many of us have these feelings and notions that someone who was close to us who has died is trying to communicate with us. This might be in a dream, through a vision, a bird, a butterfly – anything.
This is why many people will be able to relate to Tomorrow Comes by Donna Mebane. Continue reading →
See all Reader Reviews of Tomorrow Comes here.
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